*ADMIRE*
*LIKE*
*AFFECTION*
*INFATUATION*
*LUST*
*Do we all agree that, these words are all emotional / feelings related?* ⁉
feel deep affection or sexual love for (someone).
*LIKE*
to enjoy or approve of something or someone:
https://dictionary.cambridge.org/amp/english/like
*INFATUATION*
strong but not usually lasting feelings of love or attraction:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/dictionary.cambridge.org/amp/english/infatuation#ampshare=https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/infatuation
*LUST*
to have a strong desire for something:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/dictionary.cambridge.org/amp/english/lust#ampshare=https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/lust
*AFFECTION*
a feeling of liking and caring for someone or something : tender attachment
https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/affection
*ADMIRE*
to respect and like someone because they have done something that you think is good, or to respect their qualities or skills
https://www.ldoceonline.com/dictionary/admire
Or
*Which of the feelings or emotions should be considered before marriage in Islam??*
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*DATING is NOT allowed in Islam before marriage*
*What does this warning from Allah mean to us?* ⁉
*”And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect”*
*And NOT INTENDED MARRIED COUPLES..*
*In manifesting or showing your LOVE to someone whom you intend to marry….there is NO WAY YOU CAN ESCAPE FORNICATION or ZINA OF THE MOUTH, EYE, EAR, HAND OR SEX ORGAN*
You can *ONLY…. LIKE, ADMIRE* someone’s *CHARACTER OR PRACTICE OF ISLAM* before marriage
In a hadiths….. The one which talks about criteria for choosing a partner for marriage….. It says…
*”A woman may married for four reasons: for her property, for her rank, for her beauty, and for her religion (and character). So marry the one who is best in the religion and character and prosper”. (Bukhari and Muslim)*
*Again, the Prophet s.a.w never mentioned or stated that, love or show love to someone before marriage*
*”When one of you seeks a woman in marriage, and then if he is able to have a look at whom he wishes to marry, let him do so”. (Abu Dawood)*
Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, recommended:
“When one of you seeks a woman in marriage, and then if he is able to have a look at whom he wishes to marry, let him do so”. (Abu Dawood)
The would-be-spouse are allowed to see each other for matrimonial purposes under the direct supervision of their mahram relatives. This provision is expected to be conceived and executed with piety and modesty.
Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, instructed:
“No man has the right to be in the privacy with a woman who is not lawful for him. Satan is their third party unless there is a mahram”. (Ahmad)
The would-be-spouses residing in non-Muslim societies are recommended to enter into a pre-nuptial commitment to safeguard Islamic values and Muslim personal law.
Selecting a Marriage partner
Criteria for Selecting a Marriage Partner
Normally the criteria for selecting matrimonial mates are many: wealth, beauty, rank, character, congeniality, compatibility, religion, etc. The Quran enjoins Muslims to select partners who are good and pure (tayyib)
“Women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity “(Quran 24:26)
Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, recommended Muslims to select those partners who are best in religion (din) and character.
“A woman may married for four reasons: for her property, for her rank, for her beauty, and for her religion (and character). So marry the one who is best in the religion and character and prosper”. (Bukhari and Muslim)
Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, assured the bounty of Allah to those who wish to get married and live a pure and clean life.
“Three groups of people Allah obliged Himself to help them: Mujahid in the cause of Allah, a worker to pay his debt, and the one who wants to marry to live a chaste life” (Tirmidhi).
Freedom to Choose a Marriage Partner
Islam has given freedom of choice to those who wish to get married. The mutual choice of the would-be-spouses is given the highest consideration:
“do not prevent them from marrying their husbands when they agree between themselves in a lawful manner” (Quran 2:232)
The process of mate selection should be a function of a healthy balance between the freedom of choice of the would-be-spouses and consideration of the influence and consent of the parents/guardians.
The freedom of choice of those who wish to get married should not preclude the influence and consent of the parents/guardians nor should the parents/guardians ignore the wishes and consent of the would be spouses.
Falling in love is not a pre-condition for marriage in Islam. However, for the purpose of selecting an appropriate mat, the would-be-spouses are allowed to see and/or talk to each other.
Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, recommended:
“When one of you seeks a woman in marriage, and then if he is able to have a look at whom he wishes to marry, let him do so”. (Abu Dawood)
The would-be-spouse are allowed to see each other for matrimonial purposes under the direct supervision of their mahram relatives. This provision is expected to be conceived and executed with piety and modesty.
Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, instructed:
“No man has the right to be in the privacy with a woman who is not lawful for him. Satan is their third par
ty unless there is a mahram”. (Ahmad)
The would-be-spouses residing in non-Muslim societies are recommended to enter into a pre-nuptial commitment to safeguard Islamic values and Muslim personal law.
May Allah guide us all and forgive us our sins
